Your wedding planning period should ideally be a joyful and exciting time in your life. But when toxic family members become involved, the experience can quickly turn stressful and overwhelming. With the right approach, you can navigate through these difficulties and focus on the happiness of your wedding day.
Recognize the Signs of Toxicity
It is important to differentiate between normal family disagreements and toxic behavior. Toxic family members consistently cause emotional pain or harm, leaving you feeling worse after interactions with them. You may feel belittled, manipulated, or insignificant in their presence.
Address the Issue Directly
Once you identify a toxic family member, reflect on your feelings and experiences resulting from their specific behavior, and communicate your concerns to them. Sometimes, people are unaware of the impact they have on others, and pointing it out can lead to positive changes. If they genuinely care about your feelings, they will apologize and make an effort to change.
Set Firm Boundaries
If the family member minimizes your experiences, becomes defensive, or manipulates the conversation, it becomes essential to establish firm boundaries with them. Setting boundaries does not necessarily mean cutting them off completely but creating emotional distance. You can achieve this by selectively responding to their calls and messages, limiting your time with them, avoiding triggering topics, or only interacting with them in the presence of others. It may also be necessary to block them on social media temporarily.
Avoid Engaging in Conflict
When dealing with toxic family members, remember that you are not obligated to engage in conflict. If you know that arguing with them will lead nowhere or cause you pain, it is perfectly acceptable to disengage. Having a prepared script in your mind can help you respond assertively and avoid being caught off guard.
Consider Cutting Ties
If you have tried all of the above to make it work with a toxic family member and it still isn’t working out with them, it may be time to consider cutting ties. Cutting off a family member is a difficult decision, but prioritizing your mental health and well-being is essential. Remember to stick to your decision even if the other person tries to convince you otherwise.
Lean on family members and friends who understand and support you. Surrounding yourself with people who provide unconditional love and understanding can make a significant difference. If you feel overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to seek professional help so you can develop coping strategies. Focus on what truly matters—celebrating the love and commitment you and your partner share.